We can start by accepting a simple fact: Distractions lead to Destruction. And there is so much applicable wisdom in that saying that even the obvious linguistic rhyme cannot lend it enough justice. For there is an intimate relationship between how passionate you are with your life and work, and the results those two produce. For example, anyone working, collaborating or spending time with High Achievers knows very well that the vast majority of these people do not engage in most of the frivolous activities the rest of the population does, although they know how to have a properly good time when they finally decide to.
They rarely go to the movies or watch Netflix (unless if they are attending the premiere of their own movie), they do not watch Youtube (unless if they are Youtubers with millions of subscribers), they do not visit their native countries or cities every month out of nostalgia (unless if they are invited by their political or/and business leaders), and they do not spend too much time socializing or talking on the phone with family – they either make a phone call to close a deal, or choose to spend quality time with family for a whole day.
Their outings per month are maximum 1 or 2 (obviously excluding business-related meetings) and they plan their holiday-trips very carefully. They may, of course, attend an opera performance or a museum exhibition every now and then, or agree to play a 4 hour game of chess with a friend during the weekend. They might be seen skiing somewhere in the Alps or showing up unexpectedly for a wine tasting, driving their precious Oldtimer, accompanied by their favorite cigar and a beloved family member (in that order). Even on those rare occasions, they remain ‘connected’, ‘available’ and informed.
The younger generation of High Performers is no different. Now in their mid or early 30’s, they do not populate the usual joints or the most hype clubs so often. And when they do, they know exactly why they made that exception and why it is worth it. They will prefer to reserve a race-track and bring their latest hyper-car acquisition for a whole day of exhilarating driving, they may jump into their little private jet-aircraft and spend an extended weekend in a tropical destination with their beloved partner, or they may charter a yacht and take their parents for a well deserved 4-day holiday on the coasts of Italy, France, or Greece, creating lasting memories in just a few days.
Still, such expeditions are just tiny ‘instances’ in an otherwise very full calendar, filled with responsibility, accountability, and duty, where a ‘season’ lasts typically 3 to 4 months, yet the overall planning is 5-year-long! Night-club outings till the next morning, endless coffees at Starbucks, and whole weeks of just not getting out of bed, are not an option. The question is… is it so because they have the means to engage in high-end activities? Or they got to have the means because they were not interested in rudimentary activities?
You can call them workaholics, obsessive or greedy. Many people do. But it is not so simple, and this approach does not help you understand what you are doing wrong.
Passionate, highly motivated and genuinely interested people do not need free time because they are free anyway! They do not need oxygen bottles carried on their backs when swimming deep with the big fish since it is a natural act for them. And although it may sound superhuman to many, it goes down to the fact that… they do not hate what they are doing or who they are!
Boredom cannot exist when you are in love, because everything is a discovery and an advantage, wrapped up in beauty. Even the greatest obstacle is a challenge you would gladly accept – a small price to pay so that you keep your love close. Therefore, Distractions are not something to be avoided out of discipline or because you ought to. It simply becomes a set of habits as redundant as air to a fish, as soon as you find your true self and the proper Ecosystem for your development.
‘Don’t they get bored with all that Success, doing that same superficial stuff over and over’ you often hear wondering bystanders asking themselves, as they remain tied down to a properly boring routine. If you want an answer, you need to look no further than the masterpieces of classical music: Most of F. Schubert’s ingenious works, for example, are full of repetitions! And yet they are masterpieces, really hard to interpret… Perhaps it is the Long Line that these creators were (and presently are) after, instead of every little motif (or motive?…).
And funnily enough, when you observe the big picture, every little motif becomes beautiful. You might even create a masterpiece, too! And it could be your Life.